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Just cancel all weddings - JustAnotherFan - 07-28-2020

A couple who insisted on having 100 guests for their wedding have contracted coronavirus, alongside eight of their friends. https://www.independent.co.uk/news/world/americas/covid-19-wedding-guests-san-francisco-california-coronavirus-a9640996.html

lex24 - lex24 - 07-28-2020

Ok. Question – how many weddings do you think there been in the last month or so we’re people haven’t got sick? And by the way how do you insist then 100 people attend a wedding? I’d be interested in that. You go out and drag them there at gunpoint?

RE: lex24 - 76lsjumb - 07-28-2020

(07-28-2020, 05:57 PM)lex24 Wrote:  Ok. Question – how many weddings do you think there been in the last month or so we’re people haven’t got sick? And by the way how do you insist then 100 people attend a wedding? I’d be interested in that. You go out and drag them there at gunpoint?

That would, indeed, be an interesting riff on the old "shotgun wedding" cliche...

RE: Just cancel all weddings - Mick - 07-28-2020

My goddaughter is planning on a wedding with 120-150 guests in Malibu in November.  Absolutely no idea how they're going to pull that off.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - akiddoc - 07-28-2020

Someone I know is getting married in Texas next month. Originally there were 250 guests. Now there will be 15 guests. Wedding was originally planned for April. Hoping no one gets sick.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - JustAnotherFan - 07-29-2020

I have a friend whose sister is planning a large wedding in Alabama in September. She has been repeatedly warning her family that it is not safe, and they have at least decided to move the wedding outdoors. Just seems like a disaster in the making. Imagine your special day always being associated with the painful death of uncle Rick and grandma Betty.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - rudruff - 07-29-2020

Attended a wedding in May. 75 guests. No masks. No infections. All on Zoom.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - magnus - 07-29-2020

(07-29-2020, 07:25 AM)rudruff Wrote:  Attended a wedding in May. 75 guests. No masks. No infections. All on Zoom.
This proves Zoom is safe.

lex24 - lex24 - 07-29-2020

(07-29-2020, 05:08 AM)JustAnotherFan Wrote:  I have a friend whose sister is planning a large wedding in Alabama in September. She has been repeatedly warning her family that it is not safe, and they have at least decided to move the wedding outdoors. Just seems like a disaster in the making. Imagine your special day always being associated with the painful death of uncle Rick and grandma Betty.

Why is an outdoor wedding more risk than a large protest.......

RE: Just cancel all weddings - dabigv13 - 07-29-2020

I am unclear what the connection between weddings and protests are.

The comment seems intended to sidetrack the discussion to protests. The same strategy as the president.

lex24 - lex24 - 07-29-2020

(07-29-2020, 10:10 AM)dabigv13 Wrote:  I am unclear what the connection between weddings and protests are.

The comment seems intended to sidetrack the discussion to protests. The same strategy as the president.

I’m not a Trump supporter. Not even close. But I get tired of what I view as the doomsday nature of the board.    And the “blame” that gets laid out - the “selfish people” angle. Which I think is greatly overstated.  Which was the point I was awkwardly trying to make.  

 But a bad post on my part. I’ll accept that.

RE: lex24 - Farm93 - 07-29-2020

I have an cousin-in-law that was to have a wedding in June 2020.  They hoped to move it out by a few months, but realized that wouldn't work either.   So I believe they have obtained a marriage license and will hold a wedding in summer 2021.

Loads of small business owners in the wedding industry would tell you their business is way, way down.   I am sure there are a few weddings but in many urban areas holding a wedding is a challenge.

In a lot of states a wedding of any size would exceed the meeting number maximums so that's an issue.   For many weddings there will be concerns related to air travel, potential interstate quarantine rules, restaurant restrictions and international travel bans.

I know I wouldn't attend a wedding during COVID.   Weddings and receptions are rarely that entertaining and include many of the biggest risk factors for this contagious disease.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - 76lsjumb - 07-29-2020

(07-29-2020, 10:10 AM)dabigv13 Wrote:  I am unclear what the connection between weddings and protests are.

The comment seems intended to sidetrack the discussion to protests. The same strategy as the president.

Well, how about these "connections"?

Weddings are often held outside, especially this time of year [look at the spot just south of Crystal Springs Golf course on I-280, for example].  So are protests.
Weddings can be set up with all chairs six feet apart, to maintain social distancing -- indeed, a lot better social distancing than happens at protests.
Wedding guests can be given [and required to wear] face coverings -- in fact, those could be the wedding novelty item, with the names of the couple and the date adorning the front of the face covering -- and compliance would probably be higher than at most protests.
Wedding guests often come in pairs or families -- which, of course, could be separated to maintain social distancing among different "social bubbles" in a manner much more likely to avoid infection than at disorganized protests made up of randomly assembled protesters.

And, as we all know, many medical professionals as well as posters to this Board went to considerable lengths to suggest that there was little, if any, evidence that the protests of several weeks ago actually resulted in any measurable spike in the virus, so, in light of all of these "connections" [and likely others that I haven't thought of], it would seem the conclusion that could be drawn is that weddings are no more -- and, in fact, are likely less of a risk than those other gatherings [i.e., large protests] that people seemed to believe were no real problem.

Not really a "sidetrack" at all. 

Ironically, the only intended sidetrack I saw was making a reference to the president, who had absolutely NOTHING to do with the subject of the thread, the nature or risk of gatherings, the difficulties being endured by those with scheduled weddings, or pretty much anything at all... except to the extent that some folks seem to believe that any and every discussion about any and every topic is an appropriate basis upon which to take a shot at the president.  You know, the folks who are intent on politicizing everything about the pandemic.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - akiddoc - 07-29-2020

(07-29-2020, 03:31 PM)76lsjumb Wrote:  
(07-29-2020, 10:10 AM)dabigv13 Wrote:  I am unclear what the connection between weddings and protests are.

The comment seems intended to sidetrack the discussion to protests. The same strategy as the president.

Well, how about these "connections"?

Weddings are often held outside, especially this time of year [look at the spot just south of Crystal Springs Golf course on I-280, for example].  So are protests.
Weddings can be set up with all chairs six feet apart, to maintain social distancing -- indeed, a lot better social distancing than happens at protests.
Wedding guests can be given [and required to wear] face coverings -- in fact, those could be the wedding novelty item, with the names of the couple and the date adorning the front of the face covering -- and compliance would probably be higher than at most protests.
Wedding guests often come in pairs or families -- which, of course, could be separated to maintain social distancing among different "social bubbles" in a manner much more likely to avoid infection than at disorganized protests made up of randomly assembled protesters.

And, as we all know, many medical professionals as well as posters to this Board went to considerable lengths to suggest that there was little, if any, evidence that the protests of several weeks ago actually resulted in any measurable spike in the virus, so, in light of all of these "connections" [and likely others that I haven't thought of], it would seem the conclusion that could be drawn is that weddings are no more -- and, in fact, are likely less of a risk than those other gatherings [i.e., large protests] that people seemed to believe were no real problem.

Not really a "sidetrack" at all. 

Ironically, the only intended sidetrack I saw was making a reference to the president, who had absolutely NOTHING to do with the subject of the thread, the nature or risk of gatherings, the difficulties being endured by those with scheduled weddings, or pretty much anything at all... except to the extent that some folks seem to believe that any and every discussion about any and every topic is an appropriate basis upon which to take a shot at the president.  You know, the folks who are intent on politicizing everything about the pandemic.

An outdoor wedding would be safer than indoors. But prolonged exposure side by side with no masks would be a negative, and a reception with the usual behavior of eating and talking side by side would be another negative. How likely is it that guests at a wedding are going to keep their distance? And wear masks? Protesting in a packed group is also a big negative. Although the vast majority of protests I've seen on video in my city show close to 100% wearing masks and some pretty good distancing. 

If I was getting married, I would either put it off for a year (maybe two) or Zoom it. So many guests at weddings are older in age and pretty vulnerable. Inviting them to your wedding right now does seem very selfish.

RE: Just cancel all weddings - Crafter Artisan - 07-31-2020

(07-28-2020, 08:06 PM)Mick Wrote:  My goddaughter is planning on a wedding with 120-150 guests in Malibu in November.  Absolutely no idea how they're going to pull that off.


If that thing were to occur as scheduled, it might give the term "Pepperdine Waves" a whole new meaning....

RE: Just cancel all weddings - Farm93 - 07-31-2020

(07-29-2020, 06:05 PM)akiddoc Wrote:  If I was getting married, I would either put it off for a year (maybe two) or Zoom it. So many guests at weddings are older in age and pretty vulnerable. Inviting them to your wedding right now does seem very selfish.
That was the place my relatives-in-law got to on their wedding. 

In my family we talked about their options and the possible outcomes.  Imagine someone had COVID19 and then several of the family elders died shortly after the wedding.   It would be a terrible thing to have your wedding linked to a set of horrific family illnesses or deaths.

So ignore the chances of government mandates on groups altering plans, or the photos with people wearing masks and trying to socially distance, or the challenges of travel during the pandemic.   The potential for a beloved elder getting sick was probably reason enough to postpone the celebratory ceremony for a different (safer) time.