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The best part about reading this thread is how many similarities jump out. Like some of you, I wasn't the top student in my class. My GPA was only somewhere around 3.8, but my SAT score was high. So how did I get in? Affirmative action. When I took the PSAT at the end of my sophomore year, I checked two important boxes, one indicating that I was black, the other allowing the testing service to send my score to colleges around the country. I received a flood of brochures and pamphlets from schools near and far, and I eventually came to understand that I would have a lot of options. I've never been good with deadlines, so instead of narrowing my choices before sending out applications, like any sensible person, I simply applied all over the place: Stanford, Harvard, Princeton, Yale, Duke, Johns Hopkins, Michigan, C al, and local UCLA.
The pull of college football was strong. I was born in Michigan, so I understood exactly what Spiny Norman meant when he wrote about the power of "The Victors." At the time Michigan had a rolling admission policy, meaning they'd notify each applicant as soon as they looked at the application. I got my acceptance letter to Michigan in January, and it was still so close to football season that in my mind I was already headed to Ann Arbor. What could be better?
I'd soon find out. I still remember when the Stanford letters arrived. A classmate of mine returned from a weekend visit to Stanford and told us that the Admissions Office had mailed out acceptance letters on Saturday. Knowing they were likely sitting in our mailboxes that Monday afternoon, several students left school early to find out. When I got home and found the thick envelope, I was thrilled. My first call was to my dad at work, and I'll never forget his first response: "Too bad you can't go." He wasn't trying to burst my bubble -- he was and still is incredibly proud of me -- he was just being practical. In his mind, it was too expensive. My mother, thank god, thought otherwise.
A few weeks later I had narrowed my choices down to Stanford and C al. As a Southern California kid, I just couldn't see heading to the Midwest or east coast. So we took the trip north, stopping first for the C al tour. Like Farm93 would discover two years later, much of that tour was devoted to talking down Stanford. For me, the moment was an anti-Stanford joke one of the student tour guides told. Even at seventeen it all seemed so transparent to me. If there's so much energy being devoted to debunking the idea that Stanford is better than C al, might there not be some truth to it? (Six years later my sister would attend C al. Even at her graduation, Cal professors were making snide remarks about Stanford. It was rather sad.)
The Stanford tour was amazing, but I was glum and downcast the entire time. I obviously didn't understand what it meant to be paying $20,000 a year (at the time), so I pouted. When my parents asked what I thought, I even said, "It doesn't really matter what I think because I can't go here." I wonder now if that was what pushed my mom over the edge. What's funny is that I don't remember the conversation when they told me they'd send me to Stanford, I was suddenly just going.
Like many of the rest of you, it's impossible for me to quantify the impact that decision has made on my life.
Please clear the field! The game is not over!