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To be clear I don't want uninvolved parents.  To the extent time and money allow I think parents should support and encourage their kids, corr ct them when they're wrong, allow them to suffer the consequences of poor decisions (then pick them up and talk about it.). I don't like to see overly-protective parents who push their kids to be someone they aren't.  Often this is the parent reliving their lives at the child's expense, which includes, sometimes, college admission.  No one in my family, either side, had graduated from high school until my father, the youngest of 10, did, and college was spelled with a "d."  So my parents expected us to go to college.  Any college would do, as long as it has "college" or "university" in it's name.  But they didn't push us.  It was just assumed, from birth, and we (5of us) never questioned it.  As the eldest I had the least help, but over the next 12 years my Dad made more money and both parents wished up to the game.  I was the most studious, using the term relatively, and there was tutoring for some of my siblings (I don't think there were SAT tutors in those days?). The slowest of my siblings was the only one to earn a Ph.D and, frankly, my father thought it was the biggest waste of time in the world.  Some years later, just to show us all up, he got his own degree from La Verne College (now University.). It was one of those credit for life experiences things and he did it very part time in a year.  Never heard the end of it.

EDIT:  Almost forgot.  Helicopter softball

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=A3J6I5sBnd4

[Rally]

To be clear I don't want uninvolved parents.  To the extent time and money allow I think parents should support and encourage their kids, corr ct them when they're wrong, allow them to suffer the consequences of poor decisions (then pick them up and talk about it.). I don't like to see overly-protective parents who push their kids to be someone they aren't.  Often this is the parent reliving their lives at the child's expense, which includes, sometimes, college admission.  No one in my family, either side, had graduated from high school until my father, the youngest of 10, did, and college was spelled with a "d."  So my parents expected us to go to college.  Any college would do, as long as it has "college" or "university" in it's name.  But they didn't push us.  It was just assumed, from birth, and we (5of us) never questioned it.  As the eldest I had the least help, but over the next 12 years my Dad made more money and both parents wished up to the game.  I was the most studious, using the term relatively, and there was tutoring for some of my siblings (I don't think there were SAT tutors in those days?). The slowest of my siblings was the only one to earn a Ph.D and, frankly, my father thought it was the biggest waste of time in the world.  Some years later, just to show us all up, he got his own degree from La Verne College (now University.). It was one of those credit for life experiences things and he did it very part time in a year.  Never heard the end of it.

EDIT:  Almost forgot.  Helicopter softball

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=A3J6I5sBnd4