[Mick]

My sister was a college-level basketball player (I once watched her score 25 points in a 27-26 game in high school) who became an MP in the US Army.  She was 17, I was 18 when she came out to me in 1981.  It was not, shall we say, big news to me, I thought it was pretty obvious and I was certainly supportive.  She asked "What do you think Dad will say?"  I said (and I was right) "he literally won't know what to do or think."  It took him about a year to get it, five years to accept it. 

Only one thing about my sister left me queasy.  A female teacher hit on her when my sister was 16 and had never had an intimate gay experience to that point.  I asked her, years later, how she felt about it...did she want to report the teacher, did she encourage it, how did she handle it?

Separately, I knew a female college basketball player very well who expressly chose her college in order to minimize her contact with gay women in the locker room, both with respect to the coaching staff and the players.  She doesn't have an issue with it now, but she definitely did as a 17 year old.

[Mick]

My sister was a college-level basketball player (I once watched her score 25 points in a 27-26 game in high school) who became an MP in the US Army.  She was 17, I was 18 when she came out to me in 1981.  It was not, shall we say, big news to me, I thought it was pretty obvious and I was certainly supportive.  She asked "What do you think Dad will say?"  I said (and I was right) "he literally won't know what to do or think."  It took him about a year to get it, five years to accept it. 

Only one thing about my sister left me queasy.  A female teacher hit on her when my sister was 16 and had never had an intimate gay experience to that point.  I asked her, years later, how she felt about it...did she want to report the teacher, did she encourage it, how did she handle it?

Separately, I knew a female college basketball player very well who expressly chose her college in order to minimize her contact with gay women in the locker room, both with respect to the coaching staff and the players.  She doesn't have an issue with it now, but she definitely did as a 17 year old.