[OutsiderFan]

The inability of people to distinguish between scapegoating and criticism for poor performance is a real problem.

It's natural to voice frustration about things that happen to you that aren't your fault.  But, you still have to deal with the reality you face. Blaming others is not a substitute for actions that will solve current problems. Plus, the more effort put into blaming others, the worse current problems get and the longer it takes to solve them. 

Our basement had an oil spill in it a couple years ago. What did we do? Spend time figuring out who to blame for the fact a furnace component failed and try tracking down the person who might have done something to cause it? Or did we immediately call the heating oil guy to get him out to help address the problem on our hands?  Any responsible person would address the problem, then investigate what happened. The dumbest thing we could do is try tracking down whoever might hav been responsible, as our basement became filled with more oil. You can't put the oil you capture from the leak down the drain, throw it in your yard, or otherwise put it anywhere, after capturing it. Oil contaminates. Everything it touches must be replaced, and you have no time to screw around with anything other than addressing the problem. Luckily, we had a dishpan to capture it after we saw the leak, and our quick action to call the oil guy allowed him to get on scene to shut down the leak before our dishpan was overtopped.

If it turned out there was a party who should be held responsible, then that party could be.  But sometimes "shit happens" and it's far more sensible - if you have any sense - to just deal with your own problems and bitch in private about the fact it isn't your fault.  Because in public, nobody cares. You are going to be held responsible for what happens to the house as long as you are the owner. Don't want the responsibility? Never take ownership.

[OutsiderFan]

The inability of people to distinguish between scapegoating and criticism for poor performance is a real problem.

It's natural to voice frustration about things that happen to you that aren't your fault.  But, you still have to deal with the reality you face. Blaming others is not a substitute for actions that will solve current problems. Plus, the more effort put into blaming others, the worse current problems get and the longer it takes to solve them. 

Our basement had an oil spill in it a couple years ago. What did we do? Spend time figuring out who to blame for the fact a furnace component failed and try tracking down the person who might have done something to cause it? Or did we immediately call the heating oil guy to get him out to help address the problem on our hands?  Any responsible person would address the problem, then investigate what happened. The dumbest thing we could do is try tracking down whoever might hav been responsible, as our basement became filled with more oil. You can't put the oil you capture from the leak down the drain, throw it in your yard, or otherwise put it anywhere, after capturing it. Oil contaminates. Everything it touches must be replaced, and you have no time to screw around with anything other than addressing the problem. Luckily, we had a dishpan to capture it after we saw the leak, and our quick action to call the oil guy allowed him to get on scene to shut down the leak before our dishpan was overtopped.

If it turned out there was a party who should be held responsible, then that party could be.  But sometimes "shit happens" and it's far more sensible - if you have any sense - to just deal with your own problems and bitch in private about the fact it isn't your fault.  Because in public, nobody cares. You are going to be held responsible for what happens to the house as long as you are the owner. Don't want the responsibility? Never take ownership.