02-21-2022, 08:57 AM
(02-20-2022, 04:43 PM)DC 86 Wrote:Amusing. I'm not the one being strident here.(02-20-2022, 01:13 PM)Genuine Realist Wrote:(02-20-2022, 11:30 AM)DC 86 Wrote:Have to disagree. Flesh-and-blood stridency is can be very unpleasant for bystanders, leads to pretty heated emotions, and you can't retreat for a cooling off period, as you can online.(02-19-2022, 04:58 PM)Genuine Realist Wrote:Quote:I hold the exact opposite view. The bane of message boards are keyboard warriors being "strident" in a way that they would never be IRL. I have never posted something in a manner that I wouldn't say (or haven't said) to someone standing right in front of me. To do otherwise is the height of cowardice. Controversy is interesting and presenting different views is the point of all this, but we need less "stridency" based on hiding behind the protection of a computer screen.I have to note that 'height of cowardice' is a rather strident characterization to use in a post decrying stridency.
In any case, you are not dealing with the whole personality on an Internet chat board, but an Internet avatar. I enjoy the give and take and never take anything personally.
I never decried stridency per se, only your defense of inconsistent message board and real life tone. I would have made the same exact "rather strident characterization" if we were having an in-person conversation, that was my point.
I have a friend whose politics have gone from disappointment that he couldn't vote for a third term for Clinton to enthusiastic support for Trump. (Neither position matches my own.) He's always loaded for bear, but has the good sense to defer in social situations, as our spouses, gentle persons, would be extremely uncomfortable. But he can blaze away online without doing any social indignity to anyone.
We'll have to disagree. "Blazing away online" is a form of cowardly bullying that undermines the purpose of a message board and probably leaves the recipient with less (or no) desire to further participate in whatever discussions are taking place.
I actually have a lot more respect for someone who is willing to "blaze away" IRL and accept the consequences as opposed to being a jerk while hiding behind a keyboard.
But more to the point, you have now twice called me cowardly (by implication) online, which I doubt is language you have ever, or would ever, use in flesh-and-blood situations, if only because there's at least an outside chance you'll be punched in the mouth. Those are 'fighting words' to many men. So I think we can add hypocritical to the list of adjectives. If you call out people in social gatherings, you are one of a kind, in my experience. But you are bolder here, and rightly so. I'd be an idiot if it angered me, and it doesn't. That's the point of the Intrrnet
In any case, it you travel around in circles in which people become polemical, good luck to you. They for sure as hell aren't mine. These are times that are rather politically intense, and most people like to enjoy each other's company rather than debate issues.
I wouldn't give you two cents for all your fancy rules if, behind them, they didn't have a little bit of plain, ordinary, everyday kindness - yeah, and a little looking out for the other fella, too.
