(03-21-2025, 05:40 AM)Jskass Wrote: https://www.espn.com/womens-college-bask...tball-star
there's a lot there. What could have been -- very complicated but also aspects saying the fit wasn't right (comment by Belibi about post type of play) -- but the assistant coach comment? So happy that Lauren made the right moves for herself/mental health even though at Stanford's loss.
Thanks for sharing. Like others, I am genuinely happy that Betts took the courageous step of asking for help when it came to her mental health—and I'm so glad she had the community and support structures that ensured she'd receive it. Before she is a player, she is a person. I want good things for her.
And I appreciate slightly expanded window into some of the events we've been speculating about for the past few years. Much of this confirms my assumptions (that the games she missed last season for UCLA were related to mental health, that she was not a natural fit for the system Stanford favored her freshman year, that here too she struggled with her mental health, and that at least some in the Stanford locker room—Jones in particular—actively supported the decision to transfer). Other pieces were new, most notably an unnamed member of the Stanford coaching staff referring to Betts as "big girl," even after allegedly being told she didn't like it. Also worth noting that reading online comments about her added to Betts' distress. While the internet is always going to be the internet, it's a good reminder to me to be mindful of my own posts. Here's what I hope is a fair (though perhaps not generous) take:
I'm pretty frustrated by the sentiment, as exemplified by Haley Jones' comment, that transferring was what Betts did to "choose herself." To me, the lesson—especially in light of some continued struggles at UCLA—is to ask for the help you need! At worst, this points to the broader risk of the transfer portal as a bandaid. I wonder what it would have looked like for Betts to open up to Tara and Kate the way she did to Cori Close and give them the chance to support her. There's a reasonable conversation to be had about how well Stanford overall prioritizes athlete mental health, but Mikayla Brewer's experience suggests to me that the women's basketball program specifically would have been supportive. It would be a shame if future players looked at her trajectory and either made unfair assumptions about Stanford or took it as a sign that all they need to change their fortunes is a change of scenery.
Perhaps a secondary lesson: to find the right place for you, make sure you are choosing for the right reasons. This article makes it sound as though Betts picked Stanford in part to "stick it to the haters," as it were. At bottom, if UCLA is the right place for Betts, so be it. Like I said, I wish her well as a person. And I'm not rooting against her as a player, but I can't say I'm cheering for her either.